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Life is a Highway

Saturday, April 10, 2010

Tom Cochrane: Life is a Highway: Live Everyday Like You Mean it

I’m a laid back guy who believes that the happier you are in life the better off you’ll be. The less people you’ll piss off, the more people will like you and the better you’ll live and the longer you’ll live. If people can just take deep breaths & remember to breathe, they’re automatically better off because that relieves stress. I’m a laid back guy who believes that life is not about whether you face tough times, or not or get knocked down or not. Thats a part of life, it happens to everyone. The question is whether you accept your reality and complain that life is unfair, or do you get back up and fix your reality. I believe that every problem that people faces in life can be overcome. It’s just a matter of finding a solution and keeping your cool. Don’t complain about the problem itself, just fix it.

I’m a laid back guy who couldn’t care less ( to put it mildly ) about people who I don’t respect & what they have to say about and think about me. If someone who I don’t respect says something negative about me, so what I don’t respect their opinion in the first place and even if they’re right than I’ll just fix the negative perception about me and move on with my life. I’m a Laid Back guy & most people who know me already knows this, who’s never afraid to crack a joke. I try to find humor in everyone and everything that I see.

I tease people out of a sign of affection. That the person means something positive to me. I tease everyone that I respect, care about, like or love and generally all four of those things. As most people who know me already know. My only goal ever when I’m teasing someone is to make them laugh and I’m generally successful at that. ( Self high-five! ) As someone who prefers to think for myself I use my own humor, top from my head, off the cuff, spontaneous, ( now I’m getting redundant ) whether you think I’m funny, or not that is where my humor comes from.

The one and only me and I make no apology’s for it. I don’t borrow jokes and one-liners from cookie-cutter sitcoms, or other people. I see something and I make a quick off the cuff analysis of it. But I tease people out of a sign of affection that the person (or target ) means something positive to me. Otherwise I probably wouldn’t give the person the time of day, ( unless I needed something from them ) because I don’t know them, don’t know them real well, don’t like them, or they don’t mean a whole hell of a lot to me. But I also have a self-deprecating sense of humor. Since no one is perfect, I’m an excellent example of that I believe that if you can’t make fun of yourself, you have no right to make fun of other people. I have no respect and patience for people who claim to be perfect, because that person has yet to be born and are in denial about being imperfect.

I respect people who are real, who are confident, can think for them self and can converse about something other than celebrity gossip, political scandals, reality TV, latest technology, or coffee drinks. Its fine if you’re interested in all of those things let alone one of them, as long as you have other interests as well that can occupy your time. I like people who are real, who know who they are and what they want and where they’re going. I don’t respect people who are trying to be some image of someone they saw on TV, or a magazine, or something. Confident people not arrogant people to me are sexy, because they know who they are, what they want, how to get it and not afraid to let other people know it by doing it.

Not a fan of cocky people who say they’re going to do something, but for whatever reason they don’t come through, usually their fault. People with low self-esteem issues to me aren’t sexy to me because they don’t know how good they are or how good they can be. Because you find yourself trying to constantly pump them up like you’re trying to pump up a tire with a hole in it, or trying to push a concrete wall. I mean what’s the point, right. I like people who can think for them self who aren’t afraid to stand out from a crowd, instead of just living life to be like everyone else, because that’s who everyone else is. I respect leaders of the pack not followers of the pack.

I’m not a Bon Jovi fan but one line he has in one of his songs, “I want to live my life to be alive”, I have a lot of respect for and taken to heart. To me that means you get one chance on Earth and you might as well live your life the way you want to and get much out of it as possible. Instead of living life to please other people, or to fit in. If you live life the right way people who deserve your respect will respect you for living your life your way. You get one chance on Earth so take advantage of it and have no regrets, because the only person that has to live with the consequences of your actions is yourself. So you might as well get everything out of life as possible. Otherwise you’re not living life, you’re just being. Not the same thing.

I believe in substance over style, reality over perception, live and let live. (Thats the liberal in me ) Respect is not a gift, or a right, but a reward for good behavior. Treating people the way you want to be treated good or bad, hopefully mostly good, learning from history. Someone smart once said, “those who don’t learn from their mistakes are doomed to repeat them”. I’m about learning from my mistakes and fixing the problem. Not dwelling on them and spending the rest of my life suffering from them. I believe in Dr. Martin Luther King’s Dream, “I have a dream that one day my children will be judged by the content of their character, not by the color of their skin.” And that’s how I judge people everyday.

And I think that’s a perfect rule to follow especially when you live in country and melting pot the size of America some three-hundred people where the whole world is represented. I believe in tolerance over hate, I judge people by the content of their character, not by the color of their skin, or their ethnicity, race, gender, sexuality, religion or any other non-relevant factors. I’ll end this with a piece of advice. Live everyday, learn something new everyday, try something that you don’t like everyday, so you don’t have to regret not trying it later on when it’s too late to try it & find something you love doing and are good at. And can see yourself spending the rest of your productive life doing and won’t get bored doing them and then learn as much about it as possible so you can get good at it as possible.